This will not be a well done post.

It’s mostly informative, and I’m processing while I do it, so note that.  This will also serve as a blanket way to let a lot of people know who want to know.

The takehome message is that I just got back from the vet, and Mia the cat is terminal. I’ve been tracking a spot on her spine for a while, and this week Dan and I agreed it was increased in size. Today the vet concurred and said, unfortunately, this one cannot be operated on. It’s ON the spine, and it’s calcified. A specialist could, maybe, but even that’s iffy. Also, between her age and the fact that this is seven months post surgery, on a kind of tumor which WILL grow back, possibly sooner the next time, surgery is pretty much out.

So Mia is in hospice. The tumor will continue to grow, possibly very quickly. She will lose weight from it stealing her nutrients, so we have kitten food and some diet supplements. I also have pain killer to keep it from bothering her. But eventually the tumor will simply get too big and heavy, and it will decrease the quality of her life to the point where it will be kinder to take it from her gently. Or something else of a complication will come up sooner, or the pain will become too great. The bottom line is that within six months, likely less, I will lose her.

Yes. I’m very sad. There’s no way you hear a friend of sixteen years is dying right now and you don’t cry. Just no way. I don’t think for a moment it will be any easier when the moment comes, either. It’s slightly easier, though, because I thought I was going to face this in February. Every day since then has been a gift. Every day still is, even more so now. I can just see the end of the ride more clearly.

Family and friends; if you want to come visit her, just let us know. My hope right now is that I get to keep her through Christmas.

Go ahead and pass the news on. It will save me from having to tell the story over and over.

40 Comments on “This will not be a well done post.

  1. Oh honey! *hugs you tight* I’m so so sorry! I wish there were words of comfort but having been there I know there aren’t any. 😦
    {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

  2. Oh honey! *hugs you tight* I’m so so sorry! I wish there were words of comfort but having been there I know there aren’t any. 😦
    {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

  3. Hugs. We just lost our 14 yo cocker a few weeks ago. We thought we’d lose her last April, though, so we got more than a year of gifts of days with her.

  4. Hugs. We just lost our 14 yo cocker a few weeks ago. We thought we’d lose her last April, though, so we got more than a year of gifts of days with her.

  5. I’d love to come see her (and you guys, too, of course). Let me get my allergies under control another day or two. I hope you’re able to spend lots of quality time with her. Love you all.

  6. I’d love to come see her (and you guys, too, of course). Let me get my allergies under control another day or two. I hope you’re able to spend lots of quality time with her. Love you all.

  7. My heart breaks
    My heart is with you, dear family. You know I’ve been walking down that same path for 9 months now. As you say, every day is a treasure, a gift.
    I hold her close and thank God for the time I have.
    My wish for you all is to hold close those precious memories. Enjoy the times you have. I pray that when her time comes it is gentle for her.
    Hugs to all.

  8. My heart breaks
    My heart is with you, dear family. You know I’ve been walking down that same path for 9 months now. As you say, every day is a treasure, a gift.
    I hold her close and thank God for the time I have.
    My wish for you all is to hold close those precious memories. Enjoy the times you have. I pray that when her time comes it is gentle for her.
    Hugs to all.

  9. Yuck, yuck, yuck. I hate this part so much. Love and hugs to you all, and I know I’ll see Mia Pia soon.
    I’m afraid I didn’t get the memo today that I would hear so many things that would make me want to cry. What is it with today? It’s so fired.

  10. Yuck, yuck, yuck. I hate this part so much. Love and hugs to you all, and I know I’ll see Mia Pia soon.
    I’m afraid I didn’t get the memo today that I would hear so many things that would make me want to cry. What is it with today? It’s so fired.

  11. They just don’t live long enough. When Waya (icon) went at 16.5 I almost didn’t get another dog. Now we’ve got one and a half… a grown one and a puppy.
    Nothing anybody can do or say to help, I know… but don’t forget you’ve given her a long life full of safety, good food, a warm place to sleep, and love. Without you she might’ve had none of it. In the long run, that counts for something.

  12. They just don’t live long enough. When Waya (icon) went at 16.5 I almost didn’t get another dog. Now we’ve got one and a half… a grown one and a puppy.
    Nothing anybody can do or say to help, I know… but don’t forget you’ve given her a long life full of safety, good food, a warm place to sleep, and love. Without you she might’ve had none of it. In the long run, that counts for something.

  13. Oh, Heidi. I’m really sorry to hear this. I don’t think any words really help right now but I’m thinking of you and sending you and your family loads of hugs.

  14. Oh, Heidi. I’m really sorry to hear this. I don’t think any words really help right now but I’m thinking of you and sending you and your family loads of hugs.

  15. Oh, honey…
    I’m still not through the processing stage, really. The grief is real and lingering-too much sadness going on all at once in my world and so many of the connections within. And, now the evil of cancer has struck in your corner of it, too.
    Mia has been given the gift of you and your loving family to help her through this process. She’ll help you as well–in ways unknown to you now.
    Remembering you all in my prayers…

  16. Oh, honey…
    I’m still not through the processing stage, really. The grief is real and lingering-too much sadness going on all at once in my world and so many of the connections within. And, now the evil of cancer has struck in your corner of it, too.
    Mia has been given the gift of you and your loving family to help her through this process. She’ll help you as well–in ways unknown to you now.
    Remembering you all in my prayers…

  17. Awww, I’m so sorry to hear this, hon. Sixteen years, sixteen days, no matter how long it’s never enough. Big hugs. Know it’s not much, but we do what we can.
    Phoenix

  18. Awww, I’m so sorry to hear this, hon. Sixteen years, sixteen days, no matter how long it’s never enough. Big hugs. Know it’s not much, but we do what we can.
    Phoenix

  19. I’m so sorry; this is wrenching. You are so right that her quality of life is the driving factor, hard as that may be for the humans. Been there, made some wrong decisions, but you seem to have a clearer view. Hugs.

  20. I’m so sorry; this is wrenching. You are so right that her quality of life is the driving factor, hard as that may be for the humans. Been there, made some wrong decisions, but you seem to have a clearer view. Hugs.

  21. My cat of 21 years (that I had since I was a child!) died a few yrs ago due to a brain tumor so I know how you feel and what you’re going through. *hugs to you, your family, and your beloved Mia*

  22. My cat of 21 years (that I had since I was a child!) died a few yrs ago due to a brain tumor so I know how you feel and what you’re going through. *hugs to you, your family, and your beloved Mia*

  23. I’m so sorry to hear about Mia. I can’t imagine how hard it is. I always enjoy her quiet presence, and I’m glad I got to spend some time with her that last time I was at your house.

  24. I’m so sorry to hear about Mia. I can’t imagine how hard it is. I always enjoy her quiet presence, and I’m glad I got to spend some time with her that last time I was at your house.

  25. Mia Pia
    I think that Mia has been a very lucky cat! After all, remember how she was “emancipated” when you found her at the shelter? (It’s a family joke: Heidi said that and Dan said, “Heidi, I think you mean “emaciated” . . .!) It was good to see her looking so like herself today! I hope she stays that way for as long as is possible! Mom

  26. Mia Pia
    I think that Mia has been a very lucky cat! After all, remember how she was “emancipated” when you found her at the shelter? (It’s a family joke: Heidi said that and Dan said, “Heidi, I think you mean “emaciated” . . .!) It was good to see her looking so like herself today! I hope she stays that way for as long as is possible! Mom

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